Living Your Best Life

Blog by Beth Montpas, Life Coach

Sometimes My Husband Is An Eyeore

We like to spend summer weekends at the lake. If I had a dollar for every boat ride (or bike ride) that we DID NOT GO ON because there was “potential weather coming”--I’d be rich!

“Looks like rain!”--says Jonathan, I mean Eeyore!

Jonathan is an Enneagram 5.

They are known for investigating and information gathering, which includes looking at the radar!

Jonathan gathers knowledge so he doesn’t get caught in a situation! He’s the safety guy, the analyzer. He is watching out for me and the kids to keep us safe, to LOVE ON US...not to ruin our fun.

Once I learned that this was his “5” talking...and not just a way for him to drive me crazy, everything was better in our relationship. I look at his weather watching with a different perspective!

When I ask Jonathan’s advice on something, he ponders it deeply and then says: “I have 4 thoughts on this…” I roll my eyes (lovingly) and get settled in for his bullet-point way of talking! He’s so organized in his thoughts, which I can not relate to. Again, very 5 of him!

Jonathan’s friends at work are not automatically his Facebook friends! GO FIGURE!! How is that possible-- this 3 wants everyone to be her friend, ha! Nope, he’s private like that and sometimes he has “enough friends” because he values downtime so deeply and 5’s have a limited capacity for interaction with other people!

And if I want to go out on the weekend, he’d like to know about it on Monday! Spontaneity is not appealing or his jam. My varying calendar drives him nuts! (So now that I know that, I get to clean up my calendar to create peace and unity in our life!)

The bottom line, UNDERSTANDING, knowing and living the Enneagram has helped many relationships, especially my marriage. It keeps us laughing and loving each other and not judging each other!

THIS is why I’m co-hosting a free workshop on the Enneagram on Tuesday, March 2nd at 9:00-10:30 am CT with my friend Whitney.

Click here to save your spot.

Tell me your enneagram stories!! I’m all ears. Email me at



P.S. I am going LIVE Friday, February 26th with Whitney to talk about the Enneagram and the upcoming workshop I know you will not want to miss.

Join me Friday at 8:45 am CT inside BEST LIFE TRIBE to ask questions and join our convo!


Beth Montpas, Life Coach

Beth is a warm, energetic, loving woman with connection as her highest value. Life does not always go as planned yet Beth has a depth of resilient experience and an incurable passion for joy and shares it generously. She motivates and inspires others to bounce forward in their life or business and energize their dreams.

As a Certified Coach, Trainer and Speaker, with an entrepreneurial spirit, Beth leads inspiring workshops, keynote speak and creates raw, real and authentic private and small group coaching programs. Beth will aid others in personal and professional growth through retreats and online/ virtual gatherings to ignite your life. Working together, this coach will spark you to navigate inevitable change that comes with living your life FULL OUT!