Living Your Best Life
Blog by Beth Montpas, Life Coach
Oh my, I actually said no…
Hello, my friend...
I have been a people pleaser my whole life. I was raised by people pleasers (hello, I love you mom!) and SHE was raised by people pleasers (thank you, Grandma Keith). It’s our legacy.
And I am declaring to break the chains!
I am changing the legacy!
It’s so easy to fall into the trap of “sure”, “of course I can”, “yes!”, “yup!” -- I can see my text response right now!
And sometimes it’s fun to be the first one in the group to say YES, I’ll be there! And yet lately as I reflect, that’s how I get myself into places I don’t want to be. I did not pause.
The power of the pause….breathe...oh my goodness, what if I actually said, “I’ll get back to you. I will think about it.” I mean, the world would be SHOCKED!
And yet, that is exactly where I get to start living…
Because my BEST YESES...my “sacred yeses” are after I’ve contemplated a bit.
And then another startling thing happened after I paused….I actually said no. And when I say no to something I’m actually saying YES to other things (Jonathan, my kids, my health, my sanity, God, my priorities!)
AND….when I say no, it actually creates a beautiful opening for someone else! That is the best news! When I say no, another coach gets to SHINE THEIR LIGHT and get new followers, get reviews, get confidence, get testimonials and make some money!
It’s been a LOT OF freaking fun to say NO. I am reminded that, “No.” -- is a complete sentence. Nobody needs to hear my long, stammering excuse of why. Just tee it up as an unapologetic no and create space for someone else to say YES and allow you to say yes to the things in your life that are shouting your name and waving their arms at you for your attention!
Whew! I am passionate about this one!
Who/what do you get to say NO to? If you want a stretch, Say no 5 times the next five questions you are asked to do something. Then report on how it feels!!
I will be sitting by the mailbox.
P.S. I’m so excited to be slowing down this summer. What are you excited for in your summer?!
Beth Montpas, Life Coach
Beth is a warm, energetic, loving woman with connection as her highest value. Life does not always go as planned yet Beth has a depth of resilient experience and an incurable passion for joy and shares it generously. She motivates and inspires others to bounce forward in their life or business and energize their dreams.
As a Certified Coach, Trainer and Speaker, with an entrepreneurial spirit, Beth leads inspiring workshops, keynote speak and creates raw, real and authentic private and small group coaching programs. Beth will aid others in personal and professional growth through retreats and online/ virtual gatherings to ignite your life. Working together, this coach will spark you to navigate inevitable change that comes with living your life FULL OUT!